Tuesday, February 4, 2014

6 steps to a smile

First of all I am fully aware and sorry I have been so behind on my blog. I have so much I have learned over the past few months that I can't wait to share! I have Ben devoting most my writing energy my book that will be out in a few months but I am committing to sharing with you what's been going on in my life and things that I have been learning... Ok let's dive in shall we?


Life can be hard. I have learned that as I steps into the "real world" I am faced with less "dream big" attitudes and more "get back to work" attitudes. This got me down. I started thinking that there had to be more to life than just a paycheck? I lost sight of some goals, dreams, and some of my spark and for a moment I think the pressure of a new job mixed with the unfamiliar feeling of a new city made me forget how to smile. I started thinking and I realized I am where I am for a reason and so are you! Since my lull I came up with 7 ways or being back your smile:

1) Believe in the impossible. 

When we expect the worse, we usually get the worst. It’s a self-fulfilling prophecy. We get exactly what we expect to get–good or bad. Being open to possibilities  allows us to be open to new opportunities, experiences and ultimately successes. But, it starts with getting out of our comfort zone, taking a risk and opening ourselves up to the possibility that we might fail. But the rewards are much greater.

2) Kind is the new cool.


"Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised." 
Proverbs 31:30 
A fit body is certainly something to be admired. But it’s the heart of the person with it that matters most. Kindness will take you way further than 6-pack abs ever could in terms of business, interpersonal relationships, trust and respect. A snob with a bangin’ body is still a snob.

3) Be aware of worst-case scenario, but don’t expect it.

There’s a difference between understanding what could go wrong and simply assuming it’ll go wrong. It’s important to mentally put yourself in the worst-case scenario simply to see that you can, indeed, handle it. It’s never fun of course, but it’s doable. Once you understand that, it gives you permission to put yourself out there. 

4) Take responsibility 

For everything–good and bad–that happens. When we don’t take responsibility, we are stuck with no actionable steps to take, because we are waiting on someone else to step up. Stop waiting on others or for circumstances to be just right, and do something now. Anything. Solutions are yours to be acted upon.I was once told that if you are siting there thinking "someone should do something about...(fill in the blank)" then that someone is YOU! 

5) pick confidence.

Yes, it’s a choice. And it takes practice to develop, but you need to start somewhere. Try something. Get better at it and build confidence. Ask, “Why not me?” and go for it. Yes, there is always risk in putting yourself out there. But the risk of not trying is greater. “When you have confidence you can have a lot of fun. And when you have fun, you can do amazing things” –Joe Namath

6) If you hate it, then it's not for you

I hear all the time people complaining about how they hate what is going on in their life. While life can't be sunshine and rainbows everyday, it can be a good life everyday. We spend so much time doing things we dislike we loose sight of our dreams, goals, and what we truly desire. Each of us has a unique purpose all our own. Your calling was created for you and will be something that may not always be easy but it WILL be worth it.